FAQ

I get a lot of emails saying the same things so I want to clear up some myths about me now. If you email me asking any of these questions, you will likely  get a curt response.

Myth no.1 : You look too extreme. I’m new and I don’t want blood and needles and beaten within an inch of my life.

Despite appearances I am really not very mean. I can be extreme, but I also love doing soft introductory sessions with lots of reassuring and sensual touch, gentle flogging and scratching. I love BDSM, it’s been a huge part of my journey and I want you to enjoy it too, so I am not going to do anything that you really don’t like or are not ready for. And if things really get too much you can always safeword and I will always respect that boundary.

Myth no.2 : You look like a dyke, you must hate men

I usually identify as a queer pervert, and my sexual preferences are strongly towards men.

Myth no.3 : Can I call you Mistress, Ma’am, Miss?

I would rather you called me Sir, or just Claire. To my ears words like Mistress and Ma’am sound frumpy, serious and old (Dominatrix also fits this category for me, I like pro domme better). I’m young, playful and only serious when entirely necessary, so these titles just feel wrong. I like Sir because for me it doesn’t hold these connotations. Also as Sir is masculine, contrasted with the feminine Claire this reflects my queer identity and gender fluidity.

Myth no. 4 : A dominatrix is all about leather and chains and being domineering, cruel and completely uncaring yeah?

This is true for some Mistresses, but absolutely not for me. The type of BDSM I prefer can be has been called Sacred Kink, or Ecstatic BDSM, Tantric BDSM or Shamanic BDSM. I care deeply about my clients in sessions, and I want them to have the best experience possible. Often we are as equals, I am simply the active giver facilitating their receptive experience. I like to cause pain because I know this releases endorphins, adrenaline and a hormone called oxytocin. I role play to take people out of their everyday life  and give them permission to be whatever they want to be. And I can be soft, caring and sensual as well as cold and mean.

Where are you based?

I hold BDSM sessions in Stratford, East London. My venue is called The Place With No Name and is 5 minutes walk from Stratford station.

Can I have a discount?

Probably not, unless you have something valuable to offer that I want, then we can negotiate some kind of trade. Initial sessions will always be charged at full price. For more about my position on money see this post.

Can I use Amyl during a session

I don’t use Amyl during sessions because I am interested in how a person can process sensations alone. Sometimes it can take a little practice to learn this, and I will happily lead you through breathing to make the sensations feel good intense rather than nasty painful. I also relish the challenge of keeping someone just on the very edge of their pain threshold, at that place where it’s almost too much but not quite, where all those lovely endorphines get released, and watching a person flying from these sensations.