The meaning of my name was a very happy accident. Claire is my birth name, it means clarity and illumination. Black was a convenient surname, and together they mean bringing clarity and illumination to dark or black places. Which sums up what I do in a nutshell.
I’m a pervert through and through, and I am proud of this. BDSM has been a means of personal development for me, a way to accept all the parts of me that have been deemed undesirable, either by friends and family, or by societal standards. As a top my sadistic, bitchy, megalomaniac and control freak tendencies become desirable, and as a bottom my vulnerable, victim, masochistic, childlike and feral tendencies are desirable. These are parts that are not always appropriate to express in daily life, but through BDSM have a safe outlet, allowing me to function daily as a balanced human being.
I believe that everyone has at least some of these tendencies within them, and sometimes when they cannot be expressed they seep out in ugly ways. It’s my mission to celebrate all of these tenancies in people, to give them freedom to play and allow people to live happier, healthier everyday lives. Although please note, I am a switch but I only bottom to people I have come to know and trust over time. Whilst I can very quickly find a connection with someone I am topping, it takes me longer as a bottom, so I need to trust you know how to hold that space safely.
Often when I first speak with people about BDSM they feel shame at enjoying this. There can be a lot of stigma attached to it. This saddens me. That anyone should feel shameful of what they enjoy saddens me. In the right place, practised safely with the right people, everything is acceptable.
With this goal always in mind I offer BDSM sessions as a top. The word Dominatrix is a convenient and well known label, but doesn’t really fit what I do. I play with people, in whatever way feels good for us both. It’s quite infrequently that we end up in Domme/sub roles. I like to play with people who can look me in the eye and tell me what they want, then chose how much power they want to lend me for the session. Sometimes if people feel shameful about their desires we can work with that, try to find a way to make these desires something to feel proud of. Sometimes people have personal issues that BDSM can help with and sessions take on a more healing aspect.
My view of BDSM can also take on a spiritual bent at times. Sometimes it feels like more than just two bodies playing, sometimes it feels right to incorporate ritual elements, or do some magic.
As well as holding one on one sessions I’ve been heavily involved with Sacred Pleasures for the past few years, facilitating workshops with London Faerie. I also assist other sexuality teachers including Amanda Gay-Love and Rebecca Lowrie, and I very much look forward to co-teaching with Dossie Easton in December 2013.
I like to share what I know, so I offer training sessions for individuals, couples and small groups.
I recently gave a talk on my experience of BDSM nd pro domming for Wotever Talks which was filmed and put on youtube. You can watch it here
The video below is a couple of years old now and looks a little dated, but it’s a bit more of a creative introduction to me.
Video by Ana Morphic.
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